Supporting Mom Through Menopause

When Mom is navigating the exhausting waves of perimenopause—be it fatigue, brain fog, or hot flushes — young children may feel the shift in household energy but not be able to articulate it. As a dad and partner, the most powerful thing you can do is

Become the “Go-To” for decompression.

Don’t wait for mum to ask or for stress to peak; be attuned to your partner’s needs and step in with a plan.. Use Preventive I-messages proactively, such as “I can see it’s been a long day for everyone. I’ve got the kids. This is your uninterrupted time.”

Actively listen to little ones to give Mom her me-time.

When Mom needs her space to physically and emotionally rest, it’s not unusual for children to become more clingy or act out. By using Active Listening skills, you can proactively validate your child’s feelings, redirect their need for connection onto yourself, and ease the constant demand on your partner. For example, “You really want Mummy right now, and it’s hard when she’s resting. It’s important she recharges her batteries. I’m here; let’s you and I figure this out together.”

Decide on Dad’s undisputed domain.

The mental load of meal planning, bedtime battles, and academic schedules can be relentless on parents particularly during life transitions. Endeavour to take full ownership of a key routine. Drawing on No-Lose Conflict Resolution skills, sit down (just you and the kids) and create a fun “Dad’s Breakfast Chart” or “Dad’s Bedtime Chart” with pictures.

By holding a steady, loving space for both mom and child, you’re nurturing your relationships and the well-being of the whole family.